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The thought of giving the best man speech can leave even the hardiest of us suffering sleepless nights, as not only do we suffer the stress of speaking in public, we’re expected to be funny too.

Writing the best man speech can feel like an insurmountable task to begin with, especially if you aren’t used to speaking in public. The truth is that the majority of people don’t like to speak in front of a group of people, but it is something that can be overcome. One of the big keys is preparation.

However, since you don’t need to play around with the structure of the best man’s speech you can follow a step-by-step process to first brainstorm some ideas and then fill in the blanks. Remember that giving a speech is just one of the best man’s duties and if you manage to avoid losing the rings then the hard part of the day is over. That means even you can enjoy your speech!

The bulk of your speech will be devoted to mild humiliation of the groom and so it is a good idea to start to jot down some ideas. Think about your relationship with the groom:

  • What are his likes and dislikes?
  • How did you meet?
  • What common interests do you have?
  • Can you think of any funny situations he was involved in?
  • Is there anything you really don’t like about him?
  • Does he have any habits that are eccentric or just plain annoying?
  • What do you like about him?

Just write down everything at the moment, now isn’t the time to judge your ideas. Once you seem to have exhausted you list of ideas – and this only need take 10 minutes or so – put your pen and paper to one side and forget about it for the time being.

In a day or so, go back to the paper and read what you’ve written down. Is there anything else that comes to mind? Can you link any themes together, even by the most tenuous of links? Whatever it is get it down on paper. Once you’ve brainstormed all your ideas now is the time to start to cross off some ideas.

Anything that would be remotely offensive to the groom, the bride, their families or any of the guests should be removed now.

That includes ex-girlfriends, swearing, drunken escapades, criminal activities, drug taking, or anything at all that isn’t suitable for either children or grandparents. Obviously this may vary quite a bit, depending on the families and guests, but if in doubt remove it from your list.

That’s it, you’ve now completed the brainstorm – that’s the hard work over.

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